Friday

Should Christian Singles Sleep Together?

"I'm 40-years old, I've been married and divorced, and I've found a really special guy/girl and we're in love. We've been dating for a while and aren't able to get married right now. Is it really wrong for us to sleep together?"

It's a question that Ray Pritchard, of Keep Believing Ministries tackled recently in an article on Crosswalk.com entitled "SleepingTogether and Christ's Global Cause."

His response was the best answer I have ever heard on the subject, and I won't attempt to recreate his article here. I hope you'll follow the link and read it yourself.

His answer resonated with me, not because I have any doubts about whether it's ok for Christian singles to sleep together, but because his response is also the answer to many other decisions we face as believers.

Pritchard bypasses all possible scenarios people give to justify immoral behavior and cuts to the heart of the matter. This is what he says:


"There is a deeper issue at work here. When I read your note, I was reminded of a book I read 25 years ago. It was a story about how many Jews in Romania were saved from the Holocaust by some Romanian friends who spirited them out of the country at great personal risk. Here is the part I recall most vividly. The heroine of the book was a beautiful young woman, well placed in the country, a friend of powerful people, who took up the cause of the Jews as her own. Time and again she risked everything to save them.

 Somewhere along the way she met and fell in love with a gallant young man who joined her in her mission. They were nearly caught and captured again and again. It was clear that they were falling in love with each other. And on some level, you kept thinking they would sleep together. But they never did. Not once. And the reason given was something like this. “Our work in saving the Jews is so important that our own desires must never interfere.” And it never did. They never slept together. Not even one time. The cause they served captured all their attention, and they knew that they had no time to have sex. And that’s why they didn’t. It wasn’t biblical at all—their reasoning, I mean. Yet it was immensely biblical.

"I thought of that book for the first time in many years when I read your note. I think the meaning is, “As long as you and your friend have time to think about sleeping together, you aren’t serving the right cause.” I dare to venture that Christ and his Kingdom simply have not captured your heart. When Christ’s global cause and serving others in his name becomes your priority, you won’t have time or energy to think about sleeping together. Or you may think about it, but the higher calling will overrule your desires."

As I said earlier, whether or not two 40-year-old Christian singles sleep together is not an issue in my life. It may not be in yours either, but there are other issues to which we can apply the same litmus test.

Listen to Pritchard's reasoning:

"This applies not just to sexual sin but to gluttony, pride, sloth, envy, bitterness, and every other evil inclination. We sin because we are bored and can’t think of anything better to do.

As long as we are bored, we will justify anything we can think of simply to keep us occupied. Remember that David sinned with Bathsheba precisely because he had nothing better to do. He stayed home when it was the time of year when kings go out to war (2 Samuel 11:1). We focus on the adultery, but that was the result of his own boredom. He didn’t have anything better to do that night, he took a walk, he saw Bathsheba, and the rest is history.

We sin because we don’t have anything better to do.

Right now you don’t have anything better to do so of course the two of you sleep together. But how can you do that when the world is dying, millions are suffering, and people everywhere need the Lord? Why do you lie in bed with your lady friend when the King has called for you?"

These are sobering words. Pritchard's perspective calls me to consider my own actions in light of Christ's higher calling. When I choose to sin, I do not sin in a vacuum. Sin hamstrings me from being the most effective witness for Christ possible.


When I am at odds with my husband because of selfishness, Christ's ability to work through me comes to a screeching halt.

When I spend my time watching questionable television shows and movies or reading worthless books, I misspend time and energy that can be used to advance God's kingdom.


When I am lazy and self-centered, I accept God's gift of health, wealth, and salvation and, like a greedy child, run off into the sunset with my treasures clutched tightly in my hands singing, "It's all about ME ME ME!"

The apostle Paul said it first when he admonished the Ephesians.

"Pay careful attention, then, how you walk--not as unwise people but as wise--making the most of the time, because the days are evil" (Eph. 5:15-16).

Lord, I confess I often lose sight of the fact that I was bought with a price for a purpose. May I live every day not for myself, but for the purpose for which you have saved me.


To read the full text of Ray Pritchard's article, click here.



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35 comments:

  1. Hello, I'm visiting from The better Mom Link Up! Your info is quite profound and thought provoking. It can be used for all confusing situations that we might find ourselves in! Thanks for sharing!

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    1. You're right, Sylvia, even if we're not a Christian single, the litmus test of whether we should engage in any activity is, will this hinder or help the cause of Christ? Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment :)

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  2. Visiting from Teach Me Tuesdays...

    Awesome article! This litmus test definitely applies to any sin that requires an outward action. We pursue it because we are bored. Because we are not doing the work of God. That could be why Paul told women to be "busy at home". We stay busy so that we can stay out of trouble! ;)

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  3. What a great article! The idle mind is the devil's playground.

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  4. visiting from Faith Filled Friday, and enjoyed this article.

    I do think we often fall into the trap of seeing things as forbidden, without looking deepr to understand why. God does not impose arbitrary rules just to frustrate us. If He says we're not to do something, there's a good reason.

    You might also enjoy my post sharing a similar viewpoint: http://josephjpote.com/2012/03/where-my-will-meets-his/

    God bless!

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  5. Thank you so much for linking up to our Friday Homemaking Link up. Wonderful reminder for all of us! Hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving <3

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  6. Found your post via Faith Filled Friday. This really hit home for me: "We sin because we are bored and can’t think of anything better to do." I can see that in the times I get cranky or selfish. Thanks for challenging me to think about my actions and whether or not they honor God.

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    1. Becca,

      The older I get, the more I am conscious of redeeming the time. I'd have many less regrets, that's for sure. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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  7. Such a good article by Ray Pritchard! And I totally agree with the fact that we do sin when we have nothing better to do or as I learned it...idle hands are the devil's workshop! God definitely has put us on this earth to do His work. :D

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    1. yup, Ray nailed it. I am always amazed when someone can cut through all the forest and plant us squarely at the foot of the trees. In this case, it's the tree of Calvary. thanks for stopping by!

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  8. Wonderful article! I was very convicted especially on the issue of idleness. The remark of Becca Acker in a previous comment on this post " I can see that in the times I get cranky or selfish" was also interesting to me. I have learned from missionary and Christian teacher, Elisabeth Elliot, that the times that we are temped to think, do, or say anything that is not glorifying to God, that we can ALWAYS immediately find something else to do to change course. There is always something worthwhile waiting for our attention. I can't count how many days that my house was shiny clean by the end of the day because I had to change course so many times! lol Thinking unworthy thoughts? Go wash the dishes. Ready to say something hurtful to your spouse or children? Go clean the tub. Realize you are spending to much time watching TV or on the computer? Go wash the bedding. lol You get the point! Blessings! ~Colleen~

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  9. Colleen,

    YES! This is absolutely wonderful advice. Oh, I can imagine how much cleaner my house would be if I applied this advice. Elisabeth is a fountain of wisdom. I'm so glad you shared this. It's really the principle of putting off the bad stuff and putting on actions and thoughts that glorify God. Blessings back at ya!

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  10. This is an excellent post and so needed in a time when so many Christians are making compromises that affects their testimony. Many non-believers are watching us and they know how we should live, often instinctively, and will have nothing to do with Christianity because of they see Christians acting no different than the world.

    Thanks for linking up over at WholeHearted Home this week. Your posts are always written so well and have such excellent and convicting content. You are always pointing others to Christ.

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  11. Wow! Thanks for sharing, and thanks for sharing at Thriving Thursdays. THis is an excellent article, and you're right applies to soo many things that we do! I often see other SAHM's on facebook, twitter, etc. bemoaning that they have no time to keep up the laundry, housekeeping, cooking, meal planning, etc. The same people who are online, watching TV, reading, etc. (I'm guilty too! Not judging!), and I know that if we used our time wisely and were fully living for God, we wouldn't have time to get into things that aren't good for us. Adding this to the Thriving Thursdays pinterest board.

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